What is
Swinging?
It's been said that swinging is a "social and sexual
intercourse with someone other than your partner, with the
full knowledge and consent of that person."
Many confuse swinging with wife swapping, however, a lot
of swingers are not married or may be single. Many of
those who are in the lifestyle like to think
of swinging as meeting people for fun, and
sexual enjoyment, as a opposed to a steady monogomous
relationship with one person.
Swinging is a a popular recreational activity for
open-minded adults. The most common method is an adult male
& female couple, meeting other couples for sex and
sometimes ongoing intimate relationships.
In a nutshell, swinging is about having sex with other
people, it may take many forms;
Parties/Orgies with partner swapping or group sex
Couples meeting up and having sex with each other
Watching your partner have sex with other people.
Specialist swinging, ie, finding swingers with fetishes to
play out fantasies
Swinging is also known as the lifestyle. Swinging
may take on a wide variety of different forms.
Swinging clubs may be either on-premises or
off-premises. At On-Premises, you may interact
sexually with others at an event, for off-premises you
would arrange at an event and go back to a house or
somewhere else with other people.
Swinging gained more awareness and grew in the 1960's,
aided by the availability of better contraceptives and a
more progressive outlook by the nation as a whole. Hence
the phrase, 'The Swinging 60's'.
Good communication is essential to avoid disappointment.
Often, it's a good idea to find out what is expected when
meeting blind, to avoid unpleasant encounters.
More often than not, one partner would be interested in
swinging but have no idea how the partner would react.
Rather than arranging a meet then springing it on your
spouse at the last minute, engage them in chat about their
fantasies and see how they react when you mention 4 in a
bed scenarios. Steering conversations towards this
area over a period of time, and you will have a
better chance of success.
There's a big difference between swinging and cheating.
As most swingers are open and honest with their partners,
they are unlikely to be receptive to people cheating on
their partners in order to have sex. Most of the
swinginging community is made up of like-minded
swinging couples that like to share. Unfortunately, there
are a lot of single males that try to get into the action,
using the old 'she couldn't make it excuse'. Single women
and single bi-sexual women are generally welcome at most
clubs, single men and bi-sexual single men are to a
much lesser extent.
Many people starting off in the swinging world try to
get their friends involved. You should remember that
what is fun and seems natural to you may not be for them.
Better to ask yourself if you are willing to risk losing
their friendship. Another thing to consider when
encouraging people you know to engage in the swinging
lifestyle is if you end up having sex with them on a
regualr basis, emotions could come into play, and this
could lead to complications.
Remember, everyone has the right to say no. If you meet
someone and for whatever reason find them not suitable be
honest and tell them politely up front you're not
interested . This is a two way thing, so don't be too
upset or offended if it happens to you, it goes with the
territory.
There are also lots of risks,
so use protection and be careful.